How To Turn A Negative Situation Into A Positive One

Photo by Daniela Beleva on Unsplash

Negative emotions are the single biggest enemy that any of us have.

If we had no negative emotions, our lives would be wonderful — as would our relationships, our health and everything else.

Where Do Negative Emotions Come From?

The great business of life is to eliminate negative emotions. To solve this, we have to answer the question:

Where do negative emotions come from?

Almost all negative emotions depend on blaming someone or something else for negative situations that happen in their life. The problem here then, is that people hold on to those negative emotions, even if they cannot change the outcome and are angry about it.

The Key To Eliminating Negative Emotions

The key to eliminating negative emotions is this:

Take responsibility for yourself, your reactions and your situation.

You cannot take responsibility for your life, your situation, and your reactions and be negative at the same time. Your mind can only focus on one thought at a time, positive or negative.

So anytime you feel negative say to yourself over and over again:

I am responsible.

Phrases such as this are called positive affirmations. They are one of the most effective tools for reprogramming your thoughts.

You might be thinking right now:

“But Zach, in a situation involving other people, how can I be responsible for what they did?”

Here’s how:

In every situation, whether it involves you directly or not, you are always at least partially responsible for what happened.

You got yourself into the situation, you stayed in the situation, you did or said certain things in the situation, so you’re not completely innocent. You at least had something to do with it.

Here’s another possibility: Let’s say you had nothing to do with the negative situation, maybe you weren’t involved at all. You’re still responsible for how you respond to it.

This is what is called your ‘response-ability’ — your ability to respond in a positive way. And again, to respond in a positive way, you simply repeat to yourself “ I am responsible.

You can use this technique in any situation, whether your struggling to stay positive while cold calling prospects or beginning to doubt your ability to learn how to write a book. By focusing on your response and repeating an affirmation, you are providing your mind with a positive thought that will keep you motivated, confident, and happy.

You Have Complete Control

The truth is nobody can make you feel negative, other than you. If you think about things that make you feel unhappy or angry, you are going to feel negative. If you think about things that make you happy and excited about your life, you will feel positive.

When you learn how to harness the power of positive thinking you will be able to control your emotions in any situation.

The most important thing to remember about negative feelings is this: you have complete control over the way you feel, the way you respond to any situation and the things you think about at any minute of the day.

Exercise your ability to respond positively, take responsibility for your role in negative situations, and allow yourself to let go of negative feelings that might be trapped inside of you.

Before we wrap up, I’d like to leave you with a thought to share with your friends and followers:

“Accept complete responsibility for every part of your life. Refuse to blame others or make excuses.”

Now I’d love to hear from you.

My question today is:

“Which recent negative situation in your life can you turn into a positive?”

Leave a comment below, and I’ll be sure to follow up with you.

Top writer in Venture Capital

Love podcasts or audiobooks? Learn on the go with our new app.

Recommended from Medium

If You Want Something New, It Begins With You

The secret to getting better at anything

2022: The year of the pluck

“Our words matter” Kindness

Why are we obsessed with Quantity Time over Quality time?

An open letter to those drilling holes in my boat…

When Do We Stop Striving for More?

What A Hideous Christmas Gift From My Ex Taught Me About Relationships

Get the Medium app

A button that says 'Download on the App Store', and if clicked it will lead you to the iOS App store
A button that says 'Get it on, Google Play', and if clicked it will lead you to the Google Play store
Zachary Lukasiewicz

Zachary Lukasiewicz

Top writer in Venture Capital

More from Medium

Overcoming Adversity

Good Strategies Lead the Way to More Business and Profits

Woman reading a book about profit.

The Death of Sales — Part 1

Gravestone with “Salesperson” chiseled into it and dates 1982–2021

5 Effective Marketing Methods for Any Business